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Lotta had a successful career as a TV reporter, a Producer and a Director, while also developing a remarkable aptitude for drinking a lot of alcohol as I did too. And I’m sure many of you listening have a lot of began an anonymous blog called Mrs. D is Going Without when she was first stopping drinking as a way to work through her thoughts and feelings and keep yourself accountable when she was starting her journey without alcohol. One, realize, too, that you have bad days, life is hard, life is life, regardless of whether you’re drinking or not drinking. It’s not that you’re going to quit drinking, and you are never going to have a hard time again. It is that you’re actually going to be able to process it and move through it and cope in a healthier way. Each week, I’ll bring you tools, lessons and conversations to help you drink less and live more. I’ll teach you how to navigate our drinking obsessed culture without a bus, how to sit with your emotions, when you’re lonely or angry, frustrated or overwhelmed, how to self soothe without a drink, and how to turn the decision to stop drinking from your worst case scenario to the best decision of your life.
I’m actually naturally quite extroverted. So, I don’t have any social anxiety or trouble with small talk, I just don’t. And it is worth saying that for a lot of people, they do get sober and realize I’m actually quite an introverted person, I’m not comfortable in big groups, I find small talk difficult. I’m at my most happy when I’m either in one on one or very small groups or on my own. And that can also take a bit of adjustment, accepting who you are naturally. And so that’s not a bad thing that you don’t want to go to big parties, you know, and that you find them hellish. It’s part of that transitioning into your authentic self. And trust me, once you do that, and you accept who you are, even if it means you’re at home, more on your own with the comfy pants on watching TV, drinking tea and petting the cat. You’ll be happier. How to find other rewards and ‘sober treats’ that will nourish and ground you and that will actually make you feel better. Whether you know you want to stop drinking and live an alcohol free life, are sober curious, or are in recovery this podcast is for you. Yes. Yeah. And one last thing I know, we talked about really consciously taking a look at the Marketing messages that you’re surrounded by taking a look at how much of that is funded by the alcohol companies how much they’re targeting women, I’m you know, see bottles of wine that are that are, you know, mommy’s happy hour or mommy’s timeout, or, you know, all those things. And we talked about editing your social media feed, which I feel like, is so critical and diving into sober support communities that tell the other side, both the good of not alcohol, not having alcohol in your life, as well as the truth that it is not harmless. Do you have any other piece of advice for women who are really trying to get out of really buying into that mummy white culture that wine is the magic elixir? Yeah, that’s true. And that’s and that’s in its proper, happy endorphins, not chemical chemically induced, you know, happy endorphins. It’s actually genuine belly laughs.In this podcast, my goal is to teach you the tried and true secrets of creating and living a life you don’t want to escape from. She reveals the damage alcohol is causing to women: physically, emotionally and socially; and the potential reasons why so many women are drinking at harmful levels. And it’s not boring to anyone who is in the process of reevaluating their relationship with drinking or stopping drinking, I remember that I needed to inundate myself with the Quit Lit books like yours, I need you know, I read everyone.
Yeah, because humans are smart. I mean, this is just the logical way that we’re going to go because it makes, I mean, it’s the right things that happen, it will happen eventually. But it’s just starting to be chipped away at now. And there’s a lot going on at the moment in the world a lot. You know, we are dealing with a pandemic. I mean, hello, wins that ever happened. You know, we’re dealing with some really extreme political situations like alcohol, alcohols time isn’t here right now. But I do believe it will come I really do. Yeah, I mean, sometimes I worry that my social media is really boring, but because all I’m doing, but it’s just illustrating here. I am out at a bar and I’m having a lime and soda. Okay, number one, be really honest with yourself, because you know the truth, you know the truth, you are waking up at 3 in the morning, you know the truth, to be honest, number two, know, really know deep down in your bones, that change is possible. And that you will get to a place where you don’t miss that stuff at all. And number three, reach out and connect with people who understand what you’re going through. Because that will really help turn things around. And you can do that in person. You can do that online anonymously. You can completely hide who you are online. At first, you know, to feel protected, but connect with others, because that will really empower you. But she says there are also differences in the way alcohol affects woman and in how it is marketed to them. While women generally drink less than men and are also less likely to be hazardous drinkers than men, for various biological reasons. they are also more likely to be damaged by alcohol than men. Women’s generally lower body weights and higher proportion of body fat mean that, if a man and a woman drink the same amount, the woman’s blood alcohol will almost always be higher, putting her at greater risk of harm.
Freedom of choice. We’re not talking about prohibition here. But I think we just need an environment that reflects more honestly, the dark side reflects, my experience of struggling with it, and has a bit more caution placed around this product, so that it’s not hailed as an amazingly good thing everywhere. What I do 100% agree with the author on is that there needs to be more transparency about the facts. Everyone knows smoking causes cancer, and I was aware that excessive drinking can cause cancer too, but I didn’t know that the occasional drink also increases your risk. It definitely needs to be talked about more, so people are drinking fully informed, but the conversation has to start with real people and books like these. Sure, it’d be great if politicians were more vocal about it, but the fact is we can’t rely on the government or the the alcohol manufacturers to relay this information. That is crucial. And that’s the one that’s really improved. And I’m sure that all the people around me benefit from that. And I’m just so grateful also that I’m modeling to my children. Doctors prescribe it. I mean, I know that, you know, even people talking to their therapist, their doctors, they’ve been like, Oh, well, you know, just have a glass of wine at night. It can relax you, It could like they have their own, they’ve been brainwashed to. And it’s being held up in the same way cigarettes were. And yet now everybody knows cigarettes are addictive and harmful and cause cancer and aren’t healthy at all. They’re still sold. But if you tell someone I used to smoke, and I decided to quit, and it was hard, everybody’s like, good for you. Thank you, God.
I know we’re not the only ones, right? I mean, so many women cringe or make a joke about it and post it on social media, when you know, their kids are asked in kindergarten to draw pictures of their family or what mom loves or what mom does, and it’s them with a with a glass of wine, right? That’s a thing. And that’s why mum culture, Yeah. And there is a transition and getting used to that. There’s no denying it, you know, it does take a few months to just get used to feeling your feelings. That’s so cliché, but it’s true. And learn strategies. But the other thing I think it’s worth mentioning is, you know, in terms of socializing, going out and having fun. Why after the initial hit of dopamine wine is a depressive substance that is numbing and cuts you off from yourself and the people around you.
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I mean, it is physical in the way that it’s i affecting your pleasure centers, it’s, it’s messing with your memory, it’s making you physically ill, it’s up in anxiety. I found once I removed the alcohol, I felt more stable, I felt more content, I felt more able to cope with my life and my job, I didn’t want to jump out of my own skin, the self-hatred went away. I was more honest and open my relationship with my husband got better. I was no longer asking my kids on Saturday morning to be quiet or not jumped because mommy didn’t feel so good. I mean, all of that was better, every part of my life was better. And but I what I needed to do is build, build the ability to get comfortable with not drinking and to have fun and to manage my emotions. And, you know, feel life and cope with it in a healthy way. Because we still get angry, frustrated, bored. No, and I think, I now realize it was foolish to sit out to try and do it by myself, because you do need other people. And I found them through my blog. I found this amazing online community. And the first comment, Oh, my gosh, it was like a hug. And then, they started coming more and more. And that’s when I realized there’s a whole lot of people just like me, and we need that peer support. And there’s a growing, emergence and recognition in the addiction sector of the power of peer support. Yes, like countercultural men. You know, I was a rebellious teenager. And now I’m a rebellious woman in their 40s. Because I’m saying to the world, stuff there. Yeah, sorry. But no, I’m gonna push against the grain. And I’m going to do it my way. And that really appeals to the rebel and me It’s incredibly countercultural to be a nondrinker. Yeah. And you know, we are the cool ones, trust me.
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