Some ideas regarding life and future expectations explained by the author will definitely resonate with the readers. People will often fight over who gets to be responsible for successful and happiness. But taking responsibility for our problems is far more important because that’s where real learning comes from. Să nu-ți faci probleme pentru evenimentele care se petrec oricum, indiferent că vrei sau nu vrei. Nu poți controla totul. Unele lucruri (cele mai multe) nu sînt în puterea ta, altele (foarte puține) sînt. De pildă, modul de a judeca lucrurile care nu sînt în puterea ta. Sigur, Epictet și Seneca au spus asta cu mult timp în urmă, dar nu strică s-o repeți. Repetitio mater studiorum est... Counterintuitive insight by Baumeister regarding evil: some of the worst criminals often felt good about themselves. Low self-esteem was not always associated with evil acts. a b Pushkar, Katherine (September 30, 2016). "The last f—king self-help book you'll ever buy". NY Daily News. Archived from the original on October 1, 2016 . Retrieved October 6, 2016.

The author references some information from scientific studies with an assumption that the results are one way or another. He doesn't say "studies suggest that..." or "recent research has shown..", he states matter of factly that this research is correct. This may perhaps be a small complaint, but as a scientist myself, something that bothered me all the same. The case studies of famous people, too, though interesting seem to be more assumption than fact. Self-esteem, by itself, is overrated. It doesn’t help to feel good about yourself unless you have a good reason for feeling that way. The struggle makes self-esteem useful, not the participation trophy. But, full transparency, I read this out of curiosity and with a slim to none expectation of there being anything life changing to take away from it. For any change to happen in your life, you must accept that you were wrong about something you were doing before.I learned years ago that I cannot help or fix everything and to even try is unfair to me, the people I most care about and ultimately the people I am trying to help also. Spread yourself too thin, care too much, give a f*** about stuff that is beyond your reach, and you’re setting yourself up for failure. Your life will be good until it isn't. You'll be in love until you aren't. Your job will be fulfilling until you lose it. You'll be alive until you're dead. Să-ți pese cu adevărat doar de chestiile importante; le poți număra pe degetele unei singure mîini. Dar cum deosebești chestiile importante de cele neimportante, dai cu banul? Este es como el anti-heroe de los libros de autoayuda. Algo que uno debería leer (o escuchar) si empezás a sentír que el mundo te pesa mucho sobre los hombros. Sólo te libera de algunas cosas. No tiene ninguna filosofía innovadora, sólo un par de consejos y observaciones sobre cómo tomar las cosas más ligeramente, cuando tomártelas en serio te hace daño. One day, in retrospect, the years of struggle will strike you as the most beautiful.” -Sigmund Freud

Să nu-ți dorești o experiență pozitivă (mai mult sex, să spunem), pentru că vei încerca, în realitate, o experiență negativă. Dar dacă accepți o experiență negativă, poți trăi una pozitivă. The more you try to become certain about a particular issue, the more uncertain and insecure you will feel. This is different from the usual self-help books, right from the color of its cover and its title. Due to its presentation and content, this book will stand out and catch a glimpse of the reader in any bookstore.Taking responsibly for your actions, but not blaming yourself was one of the most valuable lessons I got from Mark Manson. This can be particularly useful if you are receiving too many responses from members you are not interested in. Self-improvement and success often occur together. But that doesn't necessarily mean they're the same things." If I believe I’m a nice guy, I’ll avoid situations that could potentially contradict that belief. If I believe I’m an awesome cook, I’ll seek out opportunities to prove that to myself over and over again. The belief always takes precedence. Commitment, in its own way, offers a wealth of opportunity and experiences that would never otherwise be available to you, no matter how many surface level experiences you pursued.

Mi-a luat ceva timp s-o închei, după cum se poate constata, însă acest lucru (durata totală a lecturii) nu are deloc legătură cu valoarea sau savoarea (indiscutabilă a) cărții. If you are interested in critically dissecting why you are as you are, and why you seemingly pertain to strict character roles within relationships; whether it is familial or with a spouse/significant other, then this book is a great place to start. Or, at least, that's how I'm left feeling after just finishing it. You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.” -Albert Camus When we feel that we’re choosing our problems, we feel empowered. When we feel that our problems are being forced upon us against our will, we feel victimized and miserable. What is KAYAK's "flexible dates" feature and why should I care when looking for a flight from Taipei City to Fukuoka?I enjoyed the part of the book most where the author talks about how right-wing libertarian politics (Thatcher, Reagan) in the 1980s have shaped society in the UK/US, something which still affects us today.

The problem is that the pervasiveness of technology and mass marketing is screwing up a lot of people’s expectations for themselves.Alain De Botton urges all prospective parents to read They F*** You Up BEFORE embarking on the hazardous voyage of parenthood. I can only agree with this injunction. James doesn’t shy away from letting us know that he’s a leftist/liberal and that this debate has significant implications in social policy making. He thinks that the “nature argument” is being used by the Right to advance its agenda (even though the scientists and philosophers on the “nature’s side” are decidedly liberal). The truth, however, is independent of our political preferences. Cum, Doamne, să fie „un ghid revoluționar”, cînd e vorba de fapt de o supă reîncălzită? Ca să fii fericit, crede Manson, se cuvine: