How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids tackles the last taboo subject of parenthood: the startling, white-hot fury that new (and not-so-new) mothers often have for their mates. And yet this is the norm for many heterosexual new parents: that the woman, whether she works or not, will do most of the labor (much of it unseen) around child-rearing and housekeeping.

It really does help to calm me down when my husband says, “So what I’m hearing is you’re upset that I sat on the couch while you made dinner, checked homework, and emptied the dishwasher. I am so honoured to be providing a safe space for mothers to express themselves and their struggles in a judgment-free place. This is slowly changing—men attend baby showers now, and daddy blogs are a real thing—but women are, generally speaking, still running the domestic show.The mindfulness acceptance and compassion tools learned and applied can continue to serve you well beyond the course of therapy and into the parenting journey. When I asked him to, uh, clarify, he said, “We need to hire a sitter to take them out of the house for a few hours or we’ll never have sex again. She suggests that moms make a conscious effort to prioritize activities that bring them joy and relaxation and to communicate their needs and boundaries to their partners and families. Pregnancy and the earliest months and years of your little one’s life are both major transitions that can affect your relationship and/or sexuality in ways you hadn’t anticipated. The Gottmans say that the small daily things you do to make your partner feel good reap greater rewards than the occasional sweeping gesture.

Your relationship is not an air plant, and if you don’t devote even a small amount of time to it, it will wither. Before our daughter Sylvie was born in the spring of 2009, my husband, Tom, and I almost never fought. Jancee Dunn blends marital advice from real experts with her down to earth folksy wit in Hot Not To Hate Husband After Kids.I recently stumbled across a quote that will forever live in my back pocket: Eve Rodsky, in her book Fair Play , stated: “ Resentment grows out of perceived unfairness.